"The IR Theory" (or I'm a Ten)

What will follow – for the new year are some articles I wrote for a business newspaper in Rochester NY – I could update the examples – but feel better to be left alone c/ork

Part III - the IR Theory

The IR Theory was introduced a number of years ago and is pretty simple; the I stand for you as an Individual and the R represents the current Role you are playing.  So we have the Individual Role Theory.  There are two important concepts to the IR Theory; the first is as an Individual you are always a '10' since that is man's measurement of perfection.  The second, is that a woman is better at being a woman, than a man is at being a man.  Even the scriptures allude to this, see Proverbs last chapter - 10-31. 

With the IR theory in our lives we know that then as an individual we are okay.  Heavenly Father didn't make any junk, is often stated, Father Flanigan is often quoted as, "There is no such thing as a bad boy."  Two things I've learned in my life time, is that first, we are all born with winner behavior; and second, all loser behavior is adoptive.  The medical world has discovered this over and over especially with babies born with no human chance of success at survival yet they not only live they survive, grow and blossom.  It isn't until later when they get more exposed to man and his brilliance (said critically) that they learn about such things as; luck, poor choices, too bad you just missed the cut, complaining, blaming, whining, and more importantly cheating to get ahead.  Therefore those who become quitters, losers, or other such labels as our society have found these behavior through adoption.  Losers love to blame others for their problems (this is another subject altogether - and will be written separately).

Now the second part of the theory deals with roles we play.   Women are better wives than men are husbands, this is mostly due to the some of the unchanging requirements and the constant flux of what society expects from a man.  A friend of mine who passed away used to like to say, "Wives get being wives under control in about 10-15 years, while husbands take about 2.5 million years and that is why Father gives us forever together."  But there are lots and lots of roles we play every day.   Some are given to be bosses, others just to drive a car, a child to be a student, anyone who makes a meal is playing the role of a cook, and so forth; in most of these we are nowhere near being a ten.  In new roles, facing a Ryan Nolan fast ball for example most of us are probably a .00000000000000000002; while a Ted William would have been a 3 or 4.   The problem is we tend to look at any role we are playing and associate with the who we are, and stop thinking of ourselves as tens.  

The importance of the IR Theory is to keep separate the two parts, keep intact the ten individual given you by royal birthright from a loving Heavenly Father; and try to improve at the roles we are given to play in each day.  William Shakespeare said, "All the worlds a stage and the people are the actors upon it."  This is true as far as he goes, but with moral agency we can decide the roles and from part two the effort to put forth.  What was not said, was there were some good actors and some poor ones. We then need to learn between the Individual and the Role.  Where most get in trouble is they start thinking the role is more important than the Individual.  Most of us will never make our roles to the level of 10, on given days we will be close, but the individual is always a ten. 

Respectfully yours - chuck AKA the Old Rusty Knight.   

“I’m A Ten”

cji

1/6/19

Maybe not in everything

when material things counted

yet internally I’m always a ten

as I’m a child of God growing

never once to just give up

never staying down when knocked

always going the extra miles

you knowing I’ll be your ‘six’

therefore I’m always a ten

where it matters the most!

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